My English Speech

Abusive Relationship

Today I am here to talk to you about Abusive relationships. I am reaching out to you because I need your help. I might just be one person in a world, with billions and billions of people. But John F. Kennedy once said: ''One person can make a difference, and everyone should try.''

So I asked myself: '' What is an abusive Relationship?'' Being abused means you are being mistreated. You feel like you are thrown into hole, while your significant other stands at the edge, holding a ladder. But instead of helping you out, they watch, and wait to see how you find a way, to get out of the hole yourself.

Many people don't know what being abused means. Many people don't know why people abuse others. And many people don't know what effect being abused can cause.

People who are abused don't see themselves as victims, as for abusers, they don't see themselves as being abusive. People often think being abusive means physical violence like hitting, slapping and even choking. But there is more to that. Abuse can take other forms, such as psychological, emotional , or sexual.

It can happen to people who are married or not married; heterosexual, gay or lesbian; living together, separated or dating.

Abusers threaten you, your family and even your friends. They make you feel bad by telling you their mistakes were your own. They put you down, hoping you will feel useless , to make themselves feel better. And they isolate you from the world, as the world should only exist for them.

''But words are such unpredictable creatures. No gun, no sword, no army or king will ever be more powerful than a sentence. Swords may cut and kill, but words will stab and stay, burying themselves in our bones to become corpses we carry into the future.'' This a lesson I learned from an author from the book 'Ignite me'.

But the Abusers are often victims themselves. Some tragic incident caused them to become like this. Many abusers were hurt when they were a child. Maybe their role models like mothers and fathers left the family or even passed away. Or they are grown up in a world where violence only exist.

Pearl S. Buck quoted: ''Children who are not loved, will grow up to adults, who are incapable of loving.''

So I allude to you to think what effects could have for someone who suffered such relationship. I allude you to watch out for signs which indicate of you being in such relationship. I allude not to look away if you know people who are in such relationships. Help as many as you can.

The effects are irreversible and can destroy a person starting from the inside.