Abusive
Relationship
Today
I am here to talk to you about Abusive relationships. I am reaching
out to you because I need your help. I might just be one person in a
world, with billions and billions of people. But John F. Kennedy
once said: ''One person can make a difference, and everyone should
try.''
So I
asked myself: '' What is an abusive Relationship?'' Being abused
means you are being mistreated. You feel like you are thrown into
hole, while your significant other stands at the edge, holding a
ladder. But instead of helping you out, they watch, and wait to see
how you find a way, to get out of the hole yourself.
Many
people don't know what being abused means. Many people don't know why
people abuse others. And many people don't know what effect being
abused can cause.
People
who are abused don't see themselves as victims, as for abusers, they
don't see themselves as being abusive. People often think being
abusive means physical violence like hitting, slapping and even
choking. But there is more to that. Abuse can take other forms, such
as psychological, emotional , or sexual.
It
can happen to people who are married or not married; heterosexual,
gay or lesbian; living together, separated or dating.
Abusers
threaten you, your family and even your friends. They make you feel
bad by telling you their mistakes were your own. They put you down,
hoping you will feel useless , to make themselves feel better. And
they isolate you from the world, as the world should only exist for
them.
''But
words are such unpredictable creatures. No gun, no sword, no army or
king will ever be more powerful than a sentence. Swords may cut and
kill, but words will stab and stay, burying themselves in our bones
to become corpses we carry into the future.'' This a lesson I learned
from an author from the book 'Ignite me'.
But
the Abusers are often victims themselves. Some tragic incident caused
them to become like this. Many abusers were hurt when they were a
child. Maybe their role models like mothers and fathers left the
family or even passed away. Or they are grown up in a world where
violence only exist.
Pearl
S. Buck quoted: ''Children who are not loved, will grow up to adults,
who are incapable of loving.''
So I
allude to you to think what effects could have for someone who
suffered such relationship. I allude you to watch out for signs which
indicate of you being in such relationship. I allude not to look away
if you know people who are in such relationships. Help as many as you
can.
The
effects are irreversible and can destroy a person starting from the
inside.
